Am I Being Abused?

If this is an emergency situation, please dial 911. 

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.  Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone. (Taken from Office on Violence Against Women)

Am I Being Abused? (A Checklist) – Provided by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

Look over the following questions and think about how you are being treated and how you treat your partner. Remember, when one person scares, hurts or continually puts down the other person, it’s abuse.

To contact Sakhi’s Helpline, call 212.868.6741 on weekdays between 10:00 a.m. and 6:00 p.m.

Does your partner…

__ Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
__ Put down your accomplishments or goals?
__ Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
__ Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
__ Tell you that you are nothing without them?
__ Treat you roughly – grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
__ Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
__ Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
__ Blame you for how they feel or act?
__ Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for?
__ Make you feel like there “is no way out” of the relationship?
__ Prevent you from doing things you want—like spending time with your friends or family?
__ Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson”?

Do you…

__ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
__ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
__ Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
__ Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
__ Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
__ Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke-up?

If any of these are happening in your relationship on a consistent basis, call Sakhi at 212.868.6741. Without some help, the abuse will continue.

Additional Emergency Numbers

If you are in the New York City area, please call Safe Horizon’s 24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.621.HOPE (4673) or 212.577.7777.
If you are not in the New York City area, please call the 24-hour National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233).

Various Hotlines in New York

  • New York Asian Women’s Center: 1.888.888.7702
  • NYS Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotline: 1.800.942.6906
  • Senior Citizens’ Helpline (NYS Office for the Aging): 1.800.342.9871
  • New York State Child Abuse Hotline: 1.800.342.3720
  • Prevent Child Abuse New York Prevention Information & Parent Helpline: 1.800.342.7472
  • New York State Crime Victims Board: 1.800.247.8035
  • Victim Information and Notification Everyday (VINE): 1.888.VINE.4NY or 1.888.846.3469. For the hearing impaired: 1.800.810.7444

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